"Your mother and I tried. And don't let anyone tell you any different."
Sometimes in life, people always try to hold unto something they're not suppose to—child, love, even life. People think by holding onto something will make everything right, but that cannot be more false; On the contrary, holding upon something you're not suppose to will gradually loosen your relationship with others, people will start to lose trust, start doubting, and eventually everything will go its own way. That's why you can't control everything, and that's the reason I always go by—"To love is to let go."
This film has taught me a lot of things, not only about family, but about sacrifice, freedom, and true love. I watched this film not hoping it would change anything inside me but it did. It helped me understand how to love and how to understand others better. Thus, this film has succeed in telling its theme and purpose. The story—I think— is well written and quite profound. It told a story about a family who once tried to hold everything together but eventually know that there are things they cannot fully control; That's where they finally learn to let go.
What makes the film so devastating is how restrained it is. The film never villainizes the parents, which is what makes it emotionally complicated. They genuinely love their children, yet their idealism has quietly stolen their son’s ability to live normally. I love how this film understands that sometimes the deepest wounds are caused not by cruelty, but by people who believe they are doing the right thing. Growing up, the film suggests, sometimes means understanding that the people you love can shape you deeply while still hurting you in ways they never intended.
We need to talk about River Phoenix, he plays Danny with an aching sincerity, carrying the exhaustion of someone who has spent his entire life adapting, hiding, and preparing to leave. You can feel how badly he wants something ordinary — not wealth or success, just permanence. A room that stays his. A future he can actually plan for. By watching this film it aches me to know that he's not with us anymore (RIP) but I truly love him so much.
"Your mother and I tried. And don't let anyone tell you any different."
Sometimes in life, people always try to hold unto something they're not suppose to—child, love, even life. People think by holding onto something will make everything right, but that cannot be more false; On the contrary, holding upon something you're not suppose to will gradually loosen your relationship with others, people will start to lose trust, start doubting, and eventually everything will go its own way. That's why you can't control everything, and that's the reason I always go by—"To love is to let go."
This film has taught me a lot of things, not only about family, but about sacrifice, freedom, and true love. I watched this film not hoping it would change anything inside me but it did. It helped me understand how to love and how to understand others better. Thus, this film has succeed in telling its theme and purpose. The story—I think— is well written and quite profound. It told a story about a family who once tried to hold everything together but eventually know that there are things they cannot fully control; That's where they finally learn to let go.
What makes the film so devastating is how restrained it is. The film never villainizes the parents, which is what makes it emotionally complicated. They genuinely love their children, yet their idealism has quietly stolen their son’s ability to live normally. I love how this film understands that sometimes the deepest wounds are caused not by cruelty, but by people who believe they are doing the right thing. Growing up, the film suggests, sometimes means understanding that the people you love can shape you deeply while still hurting you in ways they never intended.
We need to talk about River Phoenix, he plays Danny with an aching sincerity, carrying the exhaustion of someone who has spent his entire life adapting, hiding, and preparing to leave. You can feel how badly he wants something ordinary — not wealth or success, just permanence. A room that stays his. A future he can actually plan for. By watching this film it aches me to know that he's not with us anymore (RIP) but I truly love him so much.
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