this is one of them slice of life movies that absolutely kills you inside because of the small pieces of it that resonate so much with your own experiences. i wasn't going into this movie expecting to relate as much as i did. it stunned me. stunned me to my core the way this movie reflected such an accurate depiction of my own relationship with my mother.
the intention behind the minuscule interactions between mother and daughter were so spot on. it was weirdly scary at times because i could remember near exact encounters i have had with my mother the way fen was having with hers. the part where fen nor her mother said much after their big blow up fight towards the end, not an apology or acknowledgement of what happened but a simple, 'can you clean my ears for me?', 'of course.'
because, that's mother and daughter.
the hurt and anger towards your mother for these things she does, the believing she could be doing so much better. but also not seeing the loss of person-hood she is feeling since becoming a mother. lily expressed a number of times of 'doing whatever she wanted' - she craves it now more than ever with such a scare upon her health.
a particular scene that brought me to tears was the fight towards the end, fen and lily resorting to a screaming match and hitting each other- the father's intervention not making things better but making it all so much worse. for myself, it was never the father laying his hands on me but it was the mother, in that humiliating manner. the crying, the squeaking as you endure. the hiding behind air as if that'll change anything. 'go away.' - 'mommy's sorry.' running from the humiliation and upset that sinks into the room.
because, that's mother and daughter.
this is a fantastic movie. just the perfect amount of artsy cinema. the cinematography is something to be remembered for sure, i felt a familiarity and a comfort in the soft composition of the shots and the way the camera held it's place for a moment longer, 1 seconds, 2 seconds, it was perfectly necessary to sit with the shot a little longer. whilst i wont be able to relate to a variety of themes within this movie, this is a movie many many daughters can see themselves in. its beautiful but painful.
this is one of them slice of life movies that absolutely kills you inside because of the small pieces of it that resonate so much with your own experiences. i wasn't going into this movie expecting to relate as much as i did. it stunned me. stunned me to my core the way this movie reflected such an accurate depiction of my own relationship with my mother.
the intention behind the minuscule interactions between mother and daughter were so spot on. it was weirdly scary at times because i could remember near exact encounters i have had with my mother the way fen was having with hers. the part where fen nor her mother said much after their big blow up fight towards the end, not an apology or acknowledgement of what happened but a simple, 'can you clean my ears for me?', 'of course.'
because, that's mother and daughter.
the hurt and anger towards your mother for these things she does, the believing she could be doing so much better. but also not seeing the loss of person-hood she is feeling since becoming a mother. lily expressed a number of times of 'doing whatever she wanted' - she craves it now more than ever with such a scare upon her health.
a particular scene that brought me to tears was the fight towards the end, fen and lily resorting to a screaming match and hitting each other- the father's intervention not making things better but making it all so much worse. for myself, it was never the father laying his hands on me but it was the mother, in that humiliating manner. the crying, the squeaking as you endure. the hiding behind air as if that'll change anything. 'go away.' - 'mommy's sorry.' running from the humiliation and upset that sinks into the room.
because, that's mother and daughter.
this is a fantastic movie. just the perfect amount of artsy cinema. the cinematography is something to be remembered for sure, i felt a familiarity and a comfort in the soft composition of the shots and the way the camera held it's place for a moment longer, 1 seconds, 2 seconds, it was perfectly necessary to sit with the shot a little longer. whilst i wont be able to relate to a variety of themes within this movie, this is a movie many many daughters can see themselves in. its beautiful but painful.
