Shame

Yeah I watched it again, what about it. When I last watched this, I think I saw it as a condemnation of sex addiction in general and how sex outside of a relationship can be damaging. I now see that it is less that and more about the hardships of relationships in the modern age. Sex has been cheapened, but that’s not the problem. The problem is that no one knows how to deal with sex and relationships and family and siblings and trauma and work and anything now that we can just dam up the problem with a sex fix. And it isn’t a fix. I think that’s what the movie is trying to say. Sex isn’t going to heal the trauma that you’ve endured.  I don’t think the movie is looking to offer a solution to the problem which is why it appears so bleak, but it’s probably because there isn’t a solution. We can’t go back to the way we were of hiding everyone’s sexualities, but the modern way of making it everyone’s business doesn’t seem to be working out too well either. There isn’t enough time for boundaries to be established or connections to be formed. I love that Sissy and Brandon are so incredibly different in their approach to solve the problem, also. Sissy throws herself wholeheartedly at anything that shows her the slightest bit of love and clings on for dear life. Brandon keeps everyone and everything at a distance so much that when he genuinely wants to make a connection or have meaningful sex, he’s not sure what to do. I’m not sure what the solution is, but I do love that every time I’ve seen this movie, I’ve had a completely different perspective on it!