my uncle passed away two years ago, a day after my birthday and while we never really found out what was the “actual” cause, it sucked something out of my mom and her siblings. it was a signifier of a major moment in our family because my mom’s side had never experienced death so close to home
it made her siblings wonder, why didn’t i get to talk to him more? what was the last thing i said? did i leave on bad terms with him? should i’ve answered his last call?
my dad remembers him as a younger brother that he would talk to all the time and i remember him as the type of uncle that would felt like a black sheep but always took me to the movies to make me feel included.
watching papa reignited the feelings of how death changes us and how we deal with grief and healing — people leave us too soon to be mad at them and i feel for the father/son relationship that was affected by it
my uncle passed away two years ago, a day after my birthday and while we never really found out what was the “actual” cause, it sucked something out of my mom and her siblings. it was a signifier of a major moment in our family because my mom’s side had never experienced death so close to home
it made her siblings wonder, why didn’t i get to talk to him more? what was the last thing i said? did i leave on bad terms with him? should i’ve answered his last call?
my dad remembers him as a younger brother that he would talk to all the time and i remember him as the type of uncle that would felt like a black sheep but always took me to the movies to make me feel included.
watching papa reignited the feelings of how death changes us and how we deal with grief and healing — people leave us too soon to be mad at them and i feel for the father/son relationship that was affected by it